Thursday, March 27, 2014

At Long Last

It's a stone's throw away from April and this is, shamefully, the first blog post of the year.  Without committing to a schedule, I have loosely held myself to about one post a month but at this point I'm not going to be able to keep that up.  I do know that I want to have more than four posts a year though, so I'll have to dedicate time for memory-documentation.  In the meantime, I will maintain my excuse of LIFE IS BUSY because it is, and it has only become exponentially more so lately.

There have been some big changes percolating in our family in the last few months, changes which are exciting but also quite difficult.  After being approached for an application, Mike interviewed for and was offered a position as principal at his alma mater high school in Komoka.  With much prayerful consideration, he has accepted this new job and looks forward to taking on his responsibilities this coming August.

With this decision also comes a lot of preparation and work.  We are now in the process of preparing our home for selling, and we are planning to have it hit the market on Monday.  We had to move quite a bit faster on our renovations in order to have it in tip-top shape - installing a new window and front door, finishing the office and storage room, installing carpet, linoleum, and trim in the rec room.  I've been busy organizing, decluttering, packing, Kijiji'ing, cleaning, mudding holes, touching up paint, and what seems like a thousand other things.

I must admit some anxiety with the idea of last-minute showings when I have three children at home with me full time (Peter being at school is helpful) and a family to provide healthy home cooked meals for - how do you maintain any sense of schedule when people want to come see your home after work, dinner time, prime time, bed time?  The north-end of our city is a popular place to live, and we're really hoping that our home sells quickly.  I certainly like living here!

One lovely complication got parked on our street last night at suppertime - a backhoe and a large excavator. Exciting for the boys, but this means that our street, starting today, is being ripped up for the replacement of the watermains.  Not exactly great timing, but wouldn't YOU want to buy a house with BRAND new watermains?  It's a selling feature, right?

Besides selling our own home, there is the necessity of finding a new place for our family in the Strathroy/Komoka/Mount Brydges area.  It's a far distance from where we are now, so it's not like we can just go for a showing or two in the evening after work.  We've seen a number of homes already, but don't want to move too aggressively on anything until we've got our home on the market.

It's a difficult thing to leave a community where we feel so at home.  We've been here for eight years, and have settled into our church community, developing friendships and relationships that don't happen overnight.  All of our children were born here, and our family has grown alongside the families of our friends.  We have built many memories here and put down roots, and it hurts to pull them out.  I know we're going to a good place, a good church community, but it will take a long time to feel at home.  And then come the added things that need to change - finding a good family doctor, dentist, optometrist, etc.  Here I know where to go for ENT appointments, speech therapy, x-rays or bloodwork, chiropractor, osteopath, the best places to buy second-hand items, lumber, where to fix bicycle tires, who to call for electrical work, plumbing, mudding and sanding drywall, window installation, sand delivery, and on and on .  I know there are people who do these things all over the place, but finding ones who you can trust to do a good job takes time.

The kids were excited about the prospect of moving closer to Grandma, and they wanted to move the same day we told them about it.  However, they wanted to be sure that they could take their beds with them to the new house :)  I'm sure it will be an easier adjustment for the three younger boys than it will be for Peter, who doesn't do well with big changes and needs a lot of time to settle in.  He's quite happy at school now, building confidence and knowing his place.  It will be a big change for him to go from a large school where his Daddy works down the hall everyday to a split-grade where every face is new except his cousins.  He'll adjust in time and I'm certain it'll be an easier adjustment now than if he were a few years older already.  In that sense, it will be easier on all the kids to move before they're all full-steam ahead in the school system.

Peter is doing quite well in school right now - his inquisitive nature serves him well.  He enjoys math and reading and learning new things as long as they come without significant challenge for him, in which case he gets frustrated easily.  At home he gets absorbed in working on Lego sets and building his own creations.  He also fights with his brothers over who gets to take care of Stephen (seriously, right?).  They all want to climb in the pack and play with him to give him toys and hugs and make him laugh.  This is quite amazing and keeps at least three of us happy for a while- Stephen, the brother "taking care of him" and Mom.  Often the other two boys are upset that they aren't having a turn taking care of their brother.  This is probably a good problem for me to have.  Of course they are quickly distracted by the possibility of snack time, a book being read, someone going to play outside, but really, does anyone want to miss fun things going on around them?  Kinda leaves Stephen in the lurch but I guess that's the lot of being the littlest.  He certainly gets a lot of love.

Aaron is just a few short weeks away from turning five!  I've said it before but I'll say it again - he will be SO ready for school in September.  With everything else that has been going on, I haven't had (taken?) the time to sit down with him regularly with his workbooks, and that kind of challenge would help him.  However, he also gets frustrated quickly and escalates into an unreasonable state which at the moment I have short amounts of patience for.  Just a few days ago, he lost his first two teeth!  He had a few weeks with a double-row of teeth in the bottom front which was kind of funny to see.  He was very pleased to have a visit from the tooth fairy but a little disappointed that she didn't leave a receipt like she did for Peter.  Coincidentally, our printer is broken, so I guess we should get a new one before we have any more dental occurences in the family.  He loves to spend time building Lego, forts, and drawing pictures.

Nate is a happy-go-lucky three year old.  He thinks it's great fun to argue with me about who loves the other one more.  He can play quite well alone and gets absorbed in his own little world, building train tracks or playing with Playmobil.  I've packed away the Playmobil for the next little while so there aren't as many toys to deal with for showings, but he'll be pretty happy to get it back.  He also loves to draw and spends a lot of time at the kitchen table with a box of pencil crayons and a stack of paper.  Any time he hears me pull out the mixer he is eager to help me "make".  He listens carefully to the music we play at home, and the other day he had a big problem with a song from The City Harmonic.  The lyrics include a repeated refrain of "God is love" with the last word occasionally quite drawn out and the enunciation not quite perfect.  Nate told me, "This song is wrong, because God is NOT slow!  He is singing God is slow but He is not!".  I explained to him the words, but listening to the song it does sound an awful lot like Nate's interpretation.  I helped him write a short note to them admonishing them for their theological errors and hopefully giving them a bit of a chuckle.  Just have to find their address now and drop it in the post box.

Stephen has changed a lot in the last three months - he's definitely the child who is least-well-served by blog posts three months apart, since there are more milestones that can potentially be missed.  He's rolling over regularly and while not scooting around doing any useful crawling yet, he gets places and occasionally gets himself unhappily stuck under couches or chairs.  He babbles more than the other boys did but he's still a fairly quiet baby.  He sleeps well through the night and has for quite a while now - it is pretty rare to get up with him unless he's sick. He's still only got two teeth on the bottom and I keep checking for more but I don't see anything coming.  He's doing pretty well with eating now, still a lot of pureed dinner things but he has oatmeal and applesauce for breakfast, and often a banana, yogurt, or slice of bread torn up in pieces at lunch.  He can handle Cheerios as long as they're one at a time, and he can hold his own bottle as long as it's warm enough.  If it's not warm enough, he starts playing with it and squirts the milk all over himself.  Stinker!  I don't remember how old the other boys were when they could handle milk straight from the fridge but I can't really expect Stephen to do that now yet since he's been sick off and on for the last little while. Right now all of us are in some stage of the same yucky bug, bringing fevers, a nasty cough, aches and exhaustion.  I picked Peter up from school at lunchtime since he just came down with it.  No fun!

Well, that just about brings us up to date on our immediate family.  We've learned some extremely exciting news from our extended family, however, bringing more changes this summer.  Timothy and Danielle were thrilled to announce the expected arrival of Baby DeVries in the middle of July.  We rejoice with them in this gift of new life, and look forward to meeting the little one in due time.  There will be lots of change in the near future for them, too now, adjusting to being Mom and Dad and making a new rhythm of life as a family.  We are so excited for them!  Shortly after this announcement, Tom and Lauren also announced the happy news that Benjamin will be a big brother at the beginning of August!  So exciting to see their family growing.  Tom is a little sad to now be in the market for a minivan... Benjamin and the baby would fit in the back of their current vehicle but not Benjamin and TWO babies!!  Twins!!  A boy and a girl.  How extremely exciting, daunting, and amazing all at the same time!  We look forward to meeting our three growing nephews/nieces in the summer.  It seems that July/August will be a very busy season for us all!

There is no exciting look-out for the "first robin of spring" in our neighbourhood. This flock of robins is gorging on crab apples in -20 degree weather.  Crazy birds!
I thought with the extremely cold weather we were having in January that we should try some cold-weather experiments.  You can see from the picture that my kids were really excited by this (not).  Really, they were just SUPER grumpy in the morning and I was trying to do something to cheer them up.  Here my little scientists are holding a frozen shirt straight out in front of them - we made it wet and laid it in the snow for 4 or 5 minutes and it was frozen solid. 
I asked Peter to go downstairs while I was making lunch one day to grab me a jar of peanut butter.  He came up a few minutes later, very upset so I went down to figure out what happened.  I assured him he wasn't in trouble, don't worry about it, I'll clean it up, etc.  The scene that greeted me did not fill me with much joy, though, and the hours of cleaning were not my most enjoyable use of time.  A glass jar of olive oil had fallen off the shelf, shattering on the concrete and spreading olive oil and glass shards everywhere in the cold storage room.  I couldn't think of a jar on the shelf down there that would be worse to clean up.
 Aaron is pleased as can be to give little Stephen his bottle
 Another cold-weather experiment, which the boys were a little more excited about.  We filled up balloons with food colouring and water and then put them outside in a snow drift to freeze.  The next day we cut the balloons off and were left with multi-coloured ice marbles, fun stuff!  We won't mention how much food-coloured water spurted around the kitchen while we were working on this. 
 Our ice-marbles in the snow
 Close-up
 This kid can have some pretty funky hair!
Aaron and Nate helping me fold the laundry one day.  They were so happy to help me...
Ahh the things a Mom does for her kids.  As the kids get bigger, the toys get smaller and they don't always heed my warnings to keep the stuff off the floor or else it will get vacuumed up.  This is a lovely collection of dust and dirt from our home in the past while.  Nice eh? 
These are the "treasures" I recovered from the dust - a handful of Playmobil coins, some Lego pieces, some beads and part of Aaron's pop can tab collection.   
Peter putting his 100 Keys poster together for 100 Day in Grade 1. 

Handy spot to keep the baby
I've never had one of my kids fall asleep in the exersaucer before, but I can't say that anymore.
Can you believe how cold it got one day?  
Aaron had a row of shark teeth going on for a while.  His two adult teeth at the bottom were already coming in before the baby teeth were wiggly.  I didn't know this could happen!  He was very proud to have more teeth than anyone else. 
 Apparently Nate does not like falling in the mud.  However, I think this is hilarious!
 Just in case you didn't catch the facial expression... he's a little sad
 Announcement of the Twins!  Lauren made a blue and pink cake for us :)


Stephen and Benjamin having a cuddle with Opa
 We really need to cash in on these Tim's certificates eh Dad?  Really.  We do.
 Pretty pleased to be having a bath in the sink
 Painting himself with milk
 Watching his brothers play in the backyard
 Boys and mud, a natural combination.  Just wish the mud wasn't so... muddy.
 The kiddos
 Tooth #1 came out, followed shortly the same evening by tooth #2 with Daddy's help.  An exciting day for Aaron, who was happy to be visited by the tooth fairy.
 Peter parachuting on the wall display on 100 Day at school
 Four Boys on the Couch
 Yes, I believe this qualifies as a "mountain" of laundry.  I think there were still two loads to add to it
 Rub a Dub Dub!
This is not exactly what fills the heart with joy - seeing an excavator and backhoe dropped off on the street across from your house less than a week before it's scheduled to go on the market. 
 Boy #1
 Boy #2
 Boy #3
 Boy #4



Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Goodbye, 2013

Here we sit at the eve of a new year and these times naturally bring us to reflect on the past year and see where the passages of time have brought us.  It has been a difficult year, yet we have been blessed as well through it all.  A year ago at this time we were thankful for Dad VD reaching Day 100, and entering into the unknowns of Phase 3.  We were praying for healing and health, and the grace to live through daily trials.  At the end of April, our prayers for healing were not answered in the way we were hoping for, but we are comforted in the knowledge that the Lord is faithful to His promises.  Dad knew this well, writing, "How good that our God never leaves us, even on our hospital bed!  But give me the courts of the Lord!"  It is a great comfort to know he is now fully healed and knowing the glorious presence of our Saviour.
The Lord provided for us all day by day and continues to be near to us.  We have also experienced His blessing of joy with the birth of our fourth son Stephen in June.  He bears Dad's name and although they never got to meet face-to-face, we pray that someday we will all be together again.  What a joyful reunion that will be - I imagine that Dad has already gotten to meet one of his grandchildren that we as parents didn't even get to know. 
Time marches on, and we are drawn along by it through no power of our own.  To look back over pictures and see how much our children (and ourselves!) have changed in the past year, two, ten.  In the busy-ness of this time of life, I have been trying to make deliberate choices to seize the day, to make the most of these young years, to spend purposeful time building up and teaching our kids to be God-fearing, respectful, confident citizens.  It strikes me often how quickly they grow and how little time we really have as parents to teach and train our Littles.
Peter is six years old already.  Six!  Have I been a Mom that long already?  He has grown up a lot recently, and is learning so much in school.  What a great challenge for him.  His reading has taken off and he is well beyond the early reader books I have brought home for him from the library.  He's into chapter books, devouring Vanderhulst stories almost faster than I would be able to.  I pulled out a few books from a box downstairs this morning, including The Trumpet of the Swan, Henry and Ribsy, and Incredible Jumbo.  They are more difficult that ones he has read, but I think he's up to the challenge if he can get past the fact there are no pictures.  He loves playing with Lego and is quite good at putting his sets together.  He loves to play games but he hates to lose (really, who likes losing?) although he'll have to learn to do so a bit more graciously in order for games to be fun to play with him.  He is inquisitive, observant, and doesn't miss much, especially now that he can read so well.  Where is my little boy going? 
Aaron is very eager to learn how to read, occasionally bursting into tears because he can't yet.  He is easily frustrated when I am teaching him, so here is yet another chance for me to learn a little more patience.  You can always use more!  He is eager to help with jobs around the house and can be counted on to do the best job out of the three oldest boys.  We've started a chore chart with a rotation of drying dishes, cleaning up toys and trash, and vacuuming the kitchen.  Aaron will often help me clean up of his own volition, and it is a joy to see his servant heart in action.  He is very fond of his baby brother, and the feeling is mutual.  Stephen readily gives him radiant smiles!  The other day when we were talking about King Solomon and his choice of wisdom when God offered him whatever he wanted, we asked the boys what they would ask for.  Peter and Nate had some materialistic requests, but Aaron wanted another baby.  LOL!  Aaron is extremely enthusiastic about anything to do with "treasure" and "gold".  He's always got his eye to the ground to find some shiny trinket, to the point that if I slow down in the grocery store, he'll be laying on his belly checking under the shelves for treasure.  He has a treasure jar on the kitchen windowsill, a treasure box from cousin Derek for Christmas, and a treasure Crown Royal bag from Uncle Dave at the cottage.  He's got these containers filled with pop can tabs, marbles, beads, coins, screws, nuts, feathers, sequins, keys, and who knows what other assorted goodies.  He's also got a collection of church bulletins and another of scraps of paper with pictures of food on it from the grocery flyers.  He's tried a few other collections as well but when he's not looking I throw them away... sticks, rocks, random drawings, ... We're going to have to do something to curtail this incessant desire to hoard things before it becomes too much of an obsession. 
Nathaniel is a lot of fun right now.  He's picked up some peculiar words for a three year old, and it makes for some good laughs for us.  Of course I can't think of an example at the moment other than indignantly telling his brothers that "that is not a pleasant word!" He loves to sing, whether or not he knows the words, and often makes up his own songs about whatever is going on in his wild imagination.  He excitedly and loudly belts out the 3-Fold-Amen at the end of the church service.  Peter received two Perplexus balls for Christmas, and if Nate can get some time with them, he's really enjoyed trying to get the ball through the maze, which I think is impressive hand-eye coordination and concentration for a kid his age.  He can be very sweet and often comes up to me out of the blue, telling me, "You're my best, Mom" and asking for random hugs or kisses.  He can also be entirely and illogically miserable if things don't go his way, so we've got some learning to do about sharing, taking turns, and self-control. 
Stephen is 6.5 months now, and full of smiles for all of us.  He's quiet with big dimples and a sweet disposition.  He's been eating solid food (still pureed) for a month and half or so, and enjoys it although he doesn't eat as much as the other boys did at this age.  He's still a hefty fellow, and although I haven't gotten the official weight from his six month appointment yet, he's somewhere between 20-20.5 lbs (for the sake of comparison, at six months Peter was 18 lbs 12 oz, Aaron was 21 lbs 8 oz, and Nate was 18 lbs 4 oz)  I've been keeping an eye out for teeth popping through, and I found the first one yesterday, coming in on the bottom right.  It hasn't bothered him too much, and he's still sleeping well through the night from 7:30 or 8 until 7 or 7:30 the next morning.  Pretty sweet!  He's able to roll both ways but hasn't used his abilities for moving around yet, and that's totally ok with me.  Once he's mobile, stairs and Lego and small toys from the other kids will become much more of a hassle. 
Mike has been busy working downstairs on the basement office/bedroom/storage room area, framing things up and getting ready to do electrical, insulation, and drywall work.  Since everything has to be out of those rooms, it has made our basement a bit of a disaster and this disaster has been creeping up the stairs into my kitchen and living room as well.  Dust, boxes of Christmas stuff that don't have a place downstairs, kids who don't have space to play in the basement... I'm looking forward to putting some order back into this mess of a house.  In the meantime, we've been doing more games and creating upstairs together, which is way more fun than dusting or vacuuming.
Some random things I've written down from the kids in the last little while:

Nov 25 2013
Aaron asked Nate, "Nate, how old would an alien be?"  Nate informs him that, "It would be 100 inches away"

Dec. 5 2013
I took Aaron, Nate, and Stephen for a walk and then to the park on a beautifully warm day in December.  Aaron has been collecting "balls" for Oma for a month or so, ever since the Sycamore trees in our neighbourhood started dropping their seed pods.  He told me he was using his "eagle eyes" to find them, and to find other treasures on the ground.  Nate then declared to me that he was using his "penguin eyes" to see things that are very far away. 

Dec 12 2013
Nate:  Mommy, my nose was full, but I took it all out. 
Mom:  Did you use a Kleenex?  Where are the boogers now? (a bit concerned for the furniture)
Nate:  Umm, they are in my tummy

Dec 11 2013
Since the devastating hurricane in the Phillipines, we have been praying for the people who don't have any food, clean water, and who lost their homes.  I went to visit some people at Shalom Manor with Aaron, Nate, and Stephen, and we brought some baked goods along for them.  Seeing that we were bringing them food, Aaron believed we were going to visit the "Philistines".  Lol! 

Dec 16 2013
Nate:  "When I grow up, I will be turned into a king.  I will stay in church, and there will be a throne for me." 
This was followed by discussion between Aaron and Nate about who will be king first.  Aaron explained that first Peter will be the king, and when he dies Aaron will take over, then Nate, then Stephen.  It was explained to them that they will never be the king because Dad and Mom are not Kings and Queens.  A few days later, the kids had a discussion in the back of the van about their future jobs.  The succession had changed from King to Teacher - when Daddy dies, Peter is going to be the Grade 7 teacher, and when Peter dies, Aaron will be the teacher, then Nate, and then Stephen.  I didn't know that was how jobs at the school work, but I guess this would be extreme nepotism in action.
A spectacular November sunrise
 Peter's 6th birthday party - I don't remember what Nate's problem was, but probably had something to do with How-Come-It's-Not-MY-Birthday Syndrome
Sweet little guy!
Aaron's treasure trove
Decorating the Christmas tree.  Gotta love how the decorations only go up to a certain height and how all the balls are within the same square foot, lol. 
 A moment of brotherly affection
 Baby's first Christmas
 Trying to be artsy with my picture-taking
Mom took us all out to Toronto for an afternoon to see Les Miserables.  It was fantastic, and so much fun to be out together
Getting ready for Sinterklaas to visit
 Look who's coming up the driveway!!
Stephen doesn't know what to think, Aaron and Nate were convinced, and Peter was very aware of who has a Sinterklaas costume stored in the crawlspace.  He didn't say anything about it in front of his brothers, though
Sinterklaas brought magnifying glasses, perfect for our three Spy-dermen!
 A lap full of busy blessings
 Sinterklaas getting ready to leave
 Stephen's six month picture
 Me and my littlest babe
Nate loves the letter "A" for some reason
Nice to have a helper big enough to give bottles and excited to do it
 Putting together a puzzle
 Concentrated on his new Perplexus ball, received as a gift at Christmas time
 Opening a gift with Aunt Dell
 Hanging out with his cousin Matthew
The boys in their Christmas PJs from Mom VD (missing sleeping Timothy)
 Vander Deen Family Picture Christmas 2013